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Blindsided

So, I'm checking facebook today and see a post by Aren, saying that if we click to this link, we can follow his progress on his health. I figured, that since it's January, it'd be another blog about how he's wanting to get into shape- because Aren's always been pretty focused on staying in shape and healthy. So I click on the link.

Apparently, he's been fighting bladder cancer since 2010?!

He says that this is supposed to be a treatable cancer, but that they need to remove his bladder and such and make a new bladder with his colon with the help of his kidneys? However, when he went in to discuss the surgery this last week, they discovered the cancer had spread to his bones. So he can't have surgery until his bones are cancer free. So he will begin chemo treatment for the next 4 to 5 months.

I know he was supposed to get married this year, but am unsure how plans are going to that effect.

I'm just sitting here balling my eyes out because this is kinda hard for me to think about. Yes, it was a long time ago, but he was my first love. We had the kind of fun, carefree relationship that I've never had with anyone since. I think some of that comes from being young with virtually no responsibilities- some of it comes from your first real love- and some of it comes from the excitement of learning... things... with that person. It's why Aren will always hold a special place in my heart. I don't know that we would have stayed together if I had moved- he's become a different person and so have I. We may have grown apart, eventually. But I have no way of knowing. But I do believe that at his core, he's still that same happy, bubbly, and goofy guy that I loved with that huge smile. It's really hard to think of him going through this kind of thing. And it makes me mad that this evil thing that took my beloved uncle and mentor is going after another good person. I hate it.

The only thing I can really do is offer my support and try and be there for him as much as I can from out here. I know he has a fiance now, and I'm glad. And I'm sure his mother is beside herself with worry over this. I can only hope for the best from this.

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shaaarii
Jan. 19th, 2012 02:40 am (UTC)
Omg, this so awful! I feel like we're too young to be dealing with things like this. I hope he's going to be ok, but chemo is such a horrible thing to have to through but I hope he beats it and can have a long happy life with his fiance/wife. If you write/call him, tell him that I'm rooting for him too. T_T
pikacheck
Jan. 20th, 2012 01:16 am (UTC)
I will and yes, it's just too soon to start thinking of things like this with people our age.
I sure hope he can get through this!
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